Letting Go!

Letting go can be one of the hardest things in the world to. We are afraid to let go because we are afraid of change. We are afraid of what may lie ahead for us if we don't let go. It is often very hard to see life without the problem in it. Sometimes we really want to let go, but just don't know how. Sometimes we are even afraid to admit that we feel negative about some things. Letting Go may be about letting go of a feeling, or even a person, or maybe simply about letting go of your feelings about that person. It may be letting go of a career prospect, a family member, a feeling, a project or even a way of life. Losing something of value What happens when you loose something you think you value? The chances are you miss the feelings it gave you, not the actual item lost. We loose things, possessions, jobs, friends throughout our whole life. What happened to the first picture you drew? Your first job? Your first ever friend? Change comes when we need change. Otherwise we'd never grow as people We go on and draw better pictures, get better jobs, and new friends. The thing to remember is that the things we want out of life DO change as we grow older, but we cling to what we have because we are afraid of change. Think of the friends you have NOW, and if you've ever been to a school reunion or met up with your 1st ever best friend, you'll see how different you both are now. What about your first boyfriend or girlfriend? The point is that we let go of things all the time, and this time will be NO different from all the other times so long as you go with what you truly feel. Processes To let go, first you must identify the reasons you are feeling the way that you feel. Those feelings which are arising from the 'thought' of letting go. Are you feeling angry? What aspects make you angry? (this may be more than one thing) Are you feeling disappointed? Which parts disappoint you, specify. Are you blaming yourself? What things did you do and shouldn't have done, or didn't do when you should have. Are you afraid of something? For example, giving up, failure, change - be as specific as possible. When we break everything down into bite-sized chunks, things become easier to swallow. As individual items, you can start to work out ways to bring the positive back into your life. So if you are angry, work through the anger. If you are feeling disappointment, work through why and settle each and every aspect of it. If you feel like a failure, work through what you can do to make better things in your life. All those things which you want, you can achieve elsewhere if you care to look for it.